Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Letting Go Takes Love

Today... I really wanted to give something I found valuable. And Share something I felt needed to be shared. So... I am sharing an article written by my business and life coach Lisa Robbin Young. You may know her as The Renaissance Mom and the owner of The Direct Sales Classroom. She originally posted this blog post last year in July.

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 In the past 24 hours it feels as though I have awakened from a 35 year coma. I can’t begin to explain everything here, at least not yet.
But new realities have come into my field of vision, and I’m seeing the world through somewhat different eyes.
As moms, we often think that we are doing so much for everyone else, and we don’t have a voice of our own. Sometimes we feel squelched.
Today, I realized I’ve been squelching myself in ways I never recognized; ways I never comprehended.
And it changes starting now.
During this process of “awakening” if you will, I heard a quote on the radio. It moved me so, that I had to find the author and share it with you.
In the past few days, it hit me that as long as our hands are clenched, we cannot give, nor can we receive. Further, if all we do is take, eventually there’s nothing left to take. If all we do is give, eventually, there’s nothing left to give. Thus, we must give and take in order to keep balance and maintain a “karmic equilibrium” so to speak.
This passage from Dr. Margaret Rinck spoke to me. And so I offer it to those of you dealing with clenched fists – whether they’re yours or someone else’s:
  • To Let Go Takes Love by Dr. Margaret J. Rinck
  • To “let go” does not mean to stop caring. It means I can’t do it for someone else.
  • To “let go” is not to cut myself off. It’s the realization that I can’t control another.
  • To “let go” is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.
  • To “let go” is not to try to change or blame another. It’s to make the most of myself.
  • To “let go” is not to care for, but to care about.
  • To “let go” is not to fix, but to be supportive.
  • To “let go” is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
  • To “let go” is not to be in the middle, arraging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
  • To “let go” is not to be protective; it’s to permit another to face reality.
  • To “let go” is not deny, but to accept.
  • To “let go” is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
  • To “let go” is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
  • To “let go” is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
  • To “let go” is to fear less and to love more.
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 So... Let Go and Let GOD, be kind, especially to yourselves. That's what I'm going to do. What about you?

Sunday, February 27, 2011

Why Do All Women Want to Look Alike?

Women come in all colors from the darkest of ebonies to the palest of whites. They come in all sizes from xs to xxxl and beyond. They have different eye colors, hair colors and hair lengths. And yet, they all want to look alike. Or maybe not alike, but they want to be the ideal that Madison Avenue has foisted on them via the models staring out from Vogue, Cosmo, Elle and even the "Mom" friendly Good House Keeping and the Ladies Home Journal. How tragic. Woman are made to feel less than because sample clothing is made to fit a size 2, 5'11" "Ideal, or is it really ideal?

As women, we are beartiful; no matter the size, height, weight or any other "measured" statistic that is considered ideal.  We need to take back our self esteem, our self worth and our identities. We need to realize that healthy is the ideal for all women. When we concentrate on being healthy, we in turn teach our daughters that they ar perfect just the way they were made as we all are.

So when you look into your mirror, ask yourself this: Do I want to be healthy or do I want to be the "ideal" body type no matter the consequences to my health? Your answer will determine your emotins and your emotions will determine your actions. Take heed to the old sayings from childhood; "Bearty is only skin deep". "Bearty is in the eye of the beholder". Bearty is fleeting, but character stands the test of time".  Stay Healthy and take care of yourselves. You are Beautiful, just as you are.